Probably one of the hardest times in our development is our teenage years, a phase of life which is not only inherently challenging, but poorly supported by the culture in which we live. The transition from childhood to adulthood is not well defined in our society, and the media feeds us ideas and images that sit uneasily on our souls. We judge ourselves according to these icons and worry about our deficiencies. Our children do the same, then face entering an adulthood in which the rules are constantly changing and the future of the planet is in serious question.
The role of parents, therefore, is an extremely difficult one. You must prepare your children for being in the world while at the same time validating their perfectly legitimate rejection of it. For most parents these two tasks can seem terribly at odds. Within the context of a good therapy relationship, teens may find themselves seen and understood in a way that is very much needed in their lives. As a result, they can sometimes find a more solid place within themselves and a voice that is more truly their own.